Can you count your true friends on one hand?

Can you count your true friends on one hand?

The average adult only trusts four people, a study has revealed.

Researchers who polled 2,000 adults found the typical adult claims to have around 15 friends through work, university and childhood – but only really trust four of them.

The report also found the circle of trust is usually just two immediate family members, as well as their partner and one best friend. And a surprising 54% admitted to having problems trusting people

Yesterday Lucy Findlay, Managing Director of the Social Enterprise Mark CIC, which commissioned the study, said: ‘’It can be hard to trust when you’ve been let down in the past.

‘’This can apply not only to personal relationships, but to strangers we meet and companies we deal with day-to-day.”

She gives some pointers to feeling comfortable with others such as only give your time to those that are loyal and respectful towards you.  Listen to your instincts – and when someone betrays you, it’s important that they prove themselves to you before you trust them again.

It was revealed that  adults feel most at risk of being betrayed by a friend, followed by someone they work closely with, only 2% trust their boss and one in twenty their mother in law.

Adults put most faith in their partner, the poll revealed, as six in ten voted them as most trust-worthy, followed by their best friend and then a parent.

Age was a factor for a huge eight in ten who said they trust fewer people as they get older, due to having less patience with time-wasters or just losing touch with good friends they had.

The most common reason a person has felt betrayed was by having their secrets talked about and this was done by 40% of those who had previously been by someone they considered a friend.

Flirting with a partner by a supposed friend, borrowing money and not returning it and not being available in a crisis was quoted as being the main reasons for ending a friendship.

When it came to being secretive, adults were most guarded over their sex lives, with four in ten who said they wouldn’t discuss bedroom matters with anyone but their partner.

One in three would never chat to others about troubles in their relationship, whilst 65 per cent said they’d only discuss money matters with those they truly trust.

Sadly a huge 54 per cent of adults polled said they have issues with trust.

And the lack of trust even extended outside the social circle, as two in three adults stated they have no faith in the government.

Over four in ten said they don’t believe in celebrity gossip, unethical businesses or company bosses with inflated salaries.

And over half said they find banks to be dishonest, whilst brands linked to tax avoidance and large supermarkets were also deemed undeserving of trust.

Lucy Findlay added: ”This survey shows trust is in short supply. And if people find it hard to trust each other, how much harder is it to trust businesses?

Do you find it hard to trust people or have you been let down by someone who you thought you could rely on?

by Charlotte Courthold