Feeling the loss of old friends

  “You must expect it when you get beyond 70,” said my wife the other day. She was not referring to minor ailments but to the fact that increasingly as one gets older one finds one’s friends departing this life with increasing regularity. This past year has been particularly hard from that point of view. The latest blow came when I heard of the death of my long time friend Beryl Bainbridge. Beryl of course was one of the remarkable troupe of characters who hailed from Liverpool.

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Why is modern sport so unsporting?

 There was an interesting letter in The Times recently, relating how the writer’s father was refusing to renew his football club season ticket – because he had been so sickened by the thuggery in the World Cup Final.

 

You can see his point. We don’t watch sport just to see our favourite team or sportsperson win. Which is just as well if you are British. 

Just where did it all go wrong?

 By the time this article appears we shall know the worst about the cuts to be made by the Government. There is little doubt that the situation facing the country is serious and that we are all going to have to take a share in getting the country out of the mess that we have been landed in.

People need people

  People are not meant to lead lives like this. We are, at our deepest, most primal level, ‘tribal’. We thrive when we have each other to lean on and support. We feed off each other’s energy, love and encouragement. Mature Times editor Tony Watts asks what can be done about loneliness and isolation in our society.

If you want to make our roads safer, get gran or grandad to sit in the back during the driving test...

  The argument is that older people aren’t safe drivers. Rubbish. What it means is that short-fused younger drivers get fed up because there’s someone in front of them sticking to the speed limit, or not burning rubber to get out at a busy junction. “If they’re not as fast as us,” goes their logic, “they can’t be as good as us. Stands to reason, dunnit.” Mature Times editor Tony Watts has a Jeremy Clarkson moment - in reverse.

Dealing with pain from the past

  Most people will experience at least one traumatic experience during the course of their life and not all such experiences will lead to Stress Disorder.

Are universal benefits for the chop?

At this week’s Pensioners Parliament in Blackpool, Mature Times editor Tony Watts was one of the panel of people asked: “Who should pay for the economic crisis in which we find ourselves?”  The answer, he fears, is that the most vulnerable older people in society could bear the brunt… unless the Pensioners Movement is prepared to man the barricades, universal benefits may be one of the first victims. 

In the midst of life...

 Many thanks to all those kind readers who responded to my last Senior Moment by wishing me well in my new role as a grandfather and proferring plenty of advice. Happily, all went to plan and, two days after the last edition went to bed, I was haring up the motorway to hold the latest edition to the Watts clan in my arms – all 8lb 8oz of him - and stare in wonderment at this brand new person.

A hard-headed government needed for hard-headed times

  So the courting process has ended. We now know that a Centre-Right coalition will be taking us forward into the future. Critics may complain that this process has taken too long. I don’t think so. Countries around the world with ‘balanced parliaments’ (let’s stop using an negative expression that no longer applies) often take weeks to come to an accommodation. This is too important a decision to hurry.

Why I would gladly live in a community

 This month as I write to you I am also gazing out at the most lovely countryside. The first signs of Spring are here with all the promise of new life and warmer days to come.  I am staying with friends in Northern Ireland preparing to speak at an event designed to raise money for a new Children’s Hospice.  We shall do well as there is a very caring community in Northern Ireland.

Where now in the election battle?

  So where were you when the result of the 2010 election campaign became clear? By which I mean the first minute after 10 pm when the exit poll came out with what may well prove to be an uncannily accurate assessment of the final result. Whatever happened to all-night suspense?

Has the world gone mad?

  I ask this question semi-rhetorically in response to a news story that a soldier will be receiving up to £100,000 (of OUR money, in case it’s ever forgotten) after being disciplined for not appearing on parade.

Grandad, we love you

 As I write this, I’m celebrating just getting that most that most wonderful of jobs -  becoming a grandfather – and for the first time. 

 

Everyone who has been in this situation will know just how exciting, and worrying, this is. It’s also an odd experience in that in my mind’s eye I can still see my daughter bouncing up and down in my arms singing along to the Ghostbusters theme, or walking the wrong way up a slide with only her nappy on. God, she’s never going to forgive me for this article.

Rights come with responsibilities

 'The head of a large travel company told me of an individual who booked a holiday with is firm each year and at the end of the holiday always sent a letter complaining and demanding compensation. “I have my rights,” becomes the clarion call, “and I’m going to make sure I get them.”'

 

The Personal Care at Home Bill – sitting on the fence

The government’s proposals for personal care will go ahead – if the new government implements it. That was the message from Tuesday’s enabling legislation which was passed on Tuesday evening.

 

The government accepted a House of Lords amendment in order to get the enabling legislation through before the general election which means that the introduction of free personal care at home for elderly and disabled people with the greatest needs is to be delayed by six months. The effect of this, as Lord Warner, a former Labour health minister who helped push for amendment, said: "We feel we have done our job. We have slowed the bill down and it will be for a new government to deal with it in a more measured way." The bill is now expected to receive royal assent before parliament is dissolved for the election.